Indigo Children

Posted July 21, 2016 by tomirvine999
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This list is developed by play therapist Jan Yordy , a former elementary school teacher and child counselor who’s been working with parents and children for 25 years.

1) May be strong willed independent thinkers who prefer to do their own thing rather than comply with authority figures/parents.

2) Have a wisdom and level of caring beyond their youthful experience.

3) Traditional Parenting and discipline strategies don’t appear effective with these children. If you try to force an issue, a power struggle is the typical outcome.

4) Energetically, Indigos are vibrating at a much higher frequencey so they can get scrambled by negative energy.

5) Emotionally they can be reactive and may have problems with anxieties, depression or temper rages if not energetically balanced.

6) Are creative right brain thinkers, but may struggle to learn in a traditional left brain school system.

7) Often Indigos are diagnosed with ADD and ADHD since they appear impulsive (their brain can process information faster) and they require movement to help keep them better focused.

8) Indigos are very intuitive, and may see hear or know things that seem unexplainable.

9) Indigos have more problems with food and environmental sensitivities, since their system is more finely tuned.

10) When their needs are not met, these children seem self centered and demanding, although this is not their true nature.

11) These children have incredible gifts and potential, but they may be shut down when not properly nurtured and accepted.

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The LDS Church environment can be very challenging for Aspies, empaths and Indigos, due to the insistence on strict compliance to handbook rules and obedience to priesthood authority.

– Tom Irvine

Lessons from my Psychologist

Posted January 12, 2015 by tomirvine999
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I have started a series of therapy sessions with a psychologist who is LDS. Actually she is with LDS Family Services, but she speaks her mind freely instead of relying on fully-correlated, pre-approved counseling points. She also says that she prays about the people she meets with, which I appreciate.

I will call her “Sister K.” Actually, I used to home teach Sister K and her husband. They are fine people.

One of the reasons for these meetings is so that I can learn to deal with church authority figures with whom I have had many devastating experiences. I have anxiety and hypervigilance as a result.

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Here are a few points from Sister K.

1. Church leaders often have “type A” personalities. Most people assume that these types are called because they know how to get things done. But the real reason is that they have “rough spots” with respect to human relations that they need to smooth out.

2. People, including leaders, do things that make themselves feel better.

3. If two church members have an interaction that leaves one feeling hurt, then the situation needs to be smoothed out. Who is “right” and who is “wrong” does not matter.

4. I have been too idealistic in my expectations toward people, particularly church leaders. I need to be realistic and realize that life is not fair.

5. Other people, including herself, have had problems with church leaders.

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My thoughts on Sister K’s points.

1. Oh, I guess that makes me cannon fodder.

2. I think she was referring to some form of self-validation. For example, a man may be called to be a bishop. Someone tells him that he is too soft on people. So then he goes out and acts like a stern authoritarian to make himself feel better.

3. Reminds me of Elder Zwick’s excellent talk “What are you thinking?”

4. Point accepted. Life can be unfair.

5. I am not alone.

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I am continuing to meet with Sister K and will post updates.

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See also:

An Aspie Mormon’s Experience

– Tom Irvine

Or an Adult!

Posted January 3, 2015 by tomirvine999
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An Aspie Mormon’s Experience

Posted January 2, 2015 by tomirvine999
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Here is a letter I wrote to my kind-hearted LDS psychologist:


– Tom Irvine

Thomas Jefferson

Posted September 23, 2014 by tomirvine999
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Thomas Jefferson probably had Asperger’s syndrome. So I can relate 🙂

Sister Kate Kelly

Posted June 25, 2014 by tomirvine999
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Perfunctory Disclaimers:

1. I have never met Kate Kelly
2. I am not a trained mental health professional
3. I have never been formally diagnosed with Asperger’s, but I definitely have some traits of High-functioning Asperger’s/Empath variation.

Maybe… Kate Kelly has High-functioning Asperger’s/Empath variation with the following characteristics:

1. Hyperfocus (on Ordain Women issues)
2. Deep empathy and hypersensitivity (for those women in the LDS Church who feel undervalued, lack of opportunity, etc.)
3. Lack of deference to authority (Aspie minds are hard-wired for fluid meritocracy.)
4. Disregard of social convention and rules in pursuit of goals
5. Highly educated

(Asperger’s is more difficult to diagnose for females than for males, because females tend to present better social skills which mask their true nature.)

If… Kate Kelly is an Aspie, then what she is doing is largely affected by her brain-wiring. And God created her that way for a purpose.

Thus, to label her as an apostate who has willfully rebelled against authority is extremely short-sided and uncompassionate.

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Elder W. Craig Zwick taught:

Paul warned, “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but [only] that which is good [and] edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers” (Ephesians 4:29). His words resonate with a certain purity.

There exists today a great need for men and women to cultivate respect for each other across wide distances of belief and behavior and across deep canyons of conflicting agendas. It is impossible to know all that informs our minds and hearts or even to fully understand the context for the trials and choices we each face.

Nevertheless, what would happen to the “corrupt communication” Paul spoke about if our own position included empathy for another’s experience first? Fully owning the limits of my own imperfections and rough edges, I plead with you to practice asking this question, with tender regard for another’s experience: “What are you thinking?”

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– Tom Irvine


Posted December 21, 2013 by tomirvine999
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